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THE BACHELORETTE BLOG: BY JILLIAN HARRIS

EEEEK!!! OMG, YOU GUYS!!! I have been ITCHING to write THIS blog since day one!! YES, I did it (sent Wes home)! I don’t even know where to start with this one. I think I will keep it mostly to the Wes scenario, as this as been the bone of contention for sometime.

But first, you guys, I need to tell you that I DID read all 364 comments (and counting!) that were left after my blog. I do read them all every time. I try my best not to read all the other stuff on the other websites (there is some nasty stuff out there!), but this one is my baby. For some reason, last week, you all wrote the sweetest most sincere messages. I truly sat on my couch with a little tear in my eye, holding my hand over my heart — I felt like each note was a reach out from a best friend. Thank you all for caring for me so much, making me laugh and wanting me to be happy.

The funniest entry I read was from Karen:

Dear Jillian,
If you have rejected Ed, I think I might leave my husband and two children and wander around Chicago with a bullhorn looking for him and his adorable sweater.

Girl, I sure hope it works out for you!

Other than the Wes scenario (which I will dive into soon), I’m not sure I have much juicy gossip about the Spain episode. Kiptyn crashed that scooter about 6 times that night, and although he was mortified, it made me like him even more … I laughed for days about that. I could just see us traveling through Europe doing the same thing and having a blast! Reid and I were starving by the time we went to dinner that night because our attempt at purchasing a romantic little picnic was a complete FLOP and our lunch was dry, tasteless and rubbery — again, another clue as to how much fun we would have traveling together. I did realize in Spain that I’m not as much of a foodie as I thought; I practically starved to death there! I swear I couldn’t find anything to eat but white bread, cured ham and escargot!

I DEFINITELY knew I was NOT ready for overnight dates in Spain. I new they were an integral part of finding your lifelong partner, but I just wasn’t ready! I was nervous to accept the overnight date with Ed because of the “insinuations” that go with that, but I feared that we didn’t have enough time to catch up during the day. I knew that if Ed were to have a shot at this, he needed A LOT of time to get caught up with the others. I’m not sure if this is appropriate to say or not … but I have to tell you … We really did stay up ALL night till 7 a.m. talking about everything under the sun — every guy’s dream of the “fantasy date” … not. But it did make me realize how serious he was about coming back showing me he cared.

So … Wes! I know I kept him for WAY too long. I FULLY admit this. Someone on here wrote the truest way to explain it — it’s like you’re watching a horror movie that you starred in … And all your friends are yelling at you, “He’s behind you! He’s behind you!” Ha. There are so many ways to explain my connection with Wes. I cringe to admit this, but I truly was blinded by many of Wes’s “good qualities” for the better half of his stay that I refused to see all the red flags (and there were a lot of them!).

The thing is, for the last 10 years of my life, I have been surrounded with everything “urban,” my adult life has been all about my work and being in the city and I had this fantasy of being with someone that reminds me of where I came from, you know, camping, driving down the old dirt road, my guy working on the truck out in the driveway, listening to country music, cracking a beer on a Sunday evening on the old front porch … Scrreeeechhhh! What? Jilly! You have been listening to too many honky-tonk songs! Ha! Wes defined that fantasy to a tee, though. And the others were such city boys, I had such a hard time letting that long-time fantasy go.

I still don’t know if Wes had a girlfriend, but I do think Wes was there for his career. Along the way, we did build a friendship but his presence on the show was a disservice to both of us. It made me look like a fool and like I had bad judge of character, and it made him look like someone he is not. I guess this is what you lay out on the line when you sign up for something like this, right? Ultimately, you are all still entitled to your opinion, but I am a huge supporter of forgiveness and I hope you can give Wes a break and lay this one to rest.

Overall, I would say this was one of my favorite episodes so far. It showed my serious side, my funny side, my smart side and my soft side. I have to say, I am my own worst critic throughout all of this, but it is a reminder that I am not a perfect little princess … that I am a brunette and sometimes act like a blonde, that I have a brain, but sometimes choose not to use it, that I am okay with laughing, and later okay with shedding a little tear. This is what makes life so fun and interesting — and I have to admit, I love reliving this experience more and more every day.

Thank you all for reading again. I hope this one didn’t bore you!

Much Love,
Jilly XOXO

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66 comments:

Anonymous said...

Jillian, you have 3 great guys left. Anyone you choose will be great!

Rachel said...

Jillian, you do have 3 great guys. I don't know how you choose because they all are wonderful and very sexy. You can't worry about what other people think. You NEED to make yourself happy. You have a good head on your shoulders. My husband and I look forword to the rest of the shows. :)
Rachel!

Emily, Auburn AL said...

Jillian,
You have picked the 3 best guys...I cant wait to see who you end up with ....all of them are great...ESPECIALLY Ed...I agree with Karen..I would wander around Chicago looking for him for days! Good luck girly!

Anonymous said...

Jillian, reality is really setting in now that you are down to 3 apparently great guys! Just make sure that whomever you choose, that one of you would be willing to relocate! I did the long-distance romance for 4 years, which was not fun - but our marriage has lasted 31 years. I truly hope you found "The One"! You deserve it! Leslie

Joy from Chicago said...

Jill, as the star of the show, do you think you can request that ABC not invite Wes back to the Men Tell All episode? Either that or possibly just have him sit there with a bag over his head? That ought a put a hitch in his publicity giddy-up!

Great job with the other 3 guys – it appears you can’t go wrong. However, I’m pulling for my fellow Chicagoan. When a guy tells you he wants to take you to Wrigley Field – you know he’s serious!

Anonymous said...

Jillian....for the love of God i hope you picked Ed!!!!!!!!

BTW....country boys arent all that great...i'm from the sticks and most of the time they smell bad...

Liz

Anonymous said...

Hello Jillian...wow, what an episode.
Thank goodness about Wes...but most important, WOW..I can't believe how wonderful REID is. He was the most open and engaging last night. Even though he has had a hard time opening up, you can tell he is really trying and it's because he does want to fall in love..and it was so cute he was jealous of you and your other dates. There is no doubt that he is so into you. The eye contact and constant smiling at you sold me. He has been my favorite since day one.Funny and sexy!! Most importantly, I hope at the end of this you found happiness. Of course I hope for the Jillian and Reid love story in the end!!! He gives me a permagrin too! ha....

Anonymous said...

Jillian,
Losing Wes is like losing a hemroid, it stings a bit but thank God he is gone. That boy (I cannot call him a man) is such a scumb bag. What he said in the limo was just down right mean. He is an awful person, I know you believe in forgiveness and so do I but never forget how he treated you hunnie. I cannot wait to see who you picked, I hope it's Reid because he is adorable, he is soooo into you and hey I'm from PA so I have to support my Philly boy. Best of luck Jilly.
Kari

Anonymous said...

Jillian

Thank goodness you got rid of that tool Wes.
Girl you have a heart of gold and deserve the best.
You have 3 great guys left. The one I personally see the most chemistry
With is Reid. He lights up around you!!! You mentioned that you love the
person you are with Reid. That speaks volumes to me. You have a huge
smile whenever you are with him. The playfulness of your relationship shows
trust and potential long term love. You are like best friends who could fall in love.
I can tell he is falling for you, even though it’s difficult for him to tell you..it’s so apparent that he is opening up to you and wants to be the guy in the end.
What we are seeing reminds me of Trista and Ryan. Reid is a soft spoken guy who
Is so genuine. He reminds me of my husband a lot. A loyal loving man who would adore you…Best of luck to you….I am crossing my fingers for a Reid and Jillian ending..although I hope whatever you decide, you are over the moon about it.
Tracy

Anonymous said...

Jillian,
You're such a sweet girl, even to the end you're asking us to put it to rest and give Wes a break.
I totally agree with you about forgiveness and it would be much easier to give him a break and blame it on the editing, but the things he said on his farewell speech, it's really hard to see him in a favorable way. Cmon Jilly listen to his parting comments, breaking out of the chains, going home to lots of sex, talking again about his career. Did you ever hear one ounce of remorse losing you or even wishing you well, or saying one nice thing? Still in the end you want to protect the poor guy. Now for the red flags, I understand you had to do it at your own pace and I respect that, it's very difficult when you're feeling what you thought you did with him to see it clearly. I have a daughter your age and I can't tell you how many times I've seen the red flags so clearly and have tried to point it out to her, but like you she had to figure it out herself no matter how costly. Boy could I tell you stories about red flags, so important to pay attention to them. I know you've picked your guy, so there's no point now putting my two cents in, but for what it's worth I will say this. Being Jewish and married to someone who isn't, yet not being religious, there are still a lot of issues. I've been married 38 years and knowing what I know now instead of what I knew at 20, I'd pay attention to the differences.
Not to say Reid isn't great and he might be the one for you, but there is a different upbringing in a Jewish family and I'm not saying this from a religious stand point, it's hard to explain, but the moms cater to them more. If you've ever heard the expression shes a Jewish mother you'd know what I mean.
I wrote you before as my son Steven lives in Vancouver, I was just there as he's now moving from North Van to West Van, gorgeous area. His wife who isn't Jewish told me I made it very difficult to be his wife as I catered to him too much. Believe me when I say there is a difference and Reid will always be close with his family I'm sure which is a positive, but it can also be a slight negative. He'll always go to them for their opinion and it might weigh on you when you want him to rely more on you. Look at me I'm rambling on as if you picked Reid. As my daughter says get a life mom, you're too involved. Let me say Jewish mothers are very involved. Hope it all works out for you as you really deserve it, you've put your whole heart and soul into it. Mazel Tov (Good Luck)
Ed professes his love, but it's still hard to tell if that will win you over as you seem to go with what you're feeling not what they are saying.

Anonymous said...

Oh Jill, I hope you chose Reid. He is the cutest thing since David Cook!!!

Anonymous said...

Ed has such monotone, I don't know what you see in him. I really hope you pick Reid or especially Kiptyn!! Kip is the best for you and he is hot as hell! Jillian, Kip is the right guy for you!

Anonymous said...

I just want to say how much I admired you for A) getting rid of Wes....I think I speak for everyone when I say we've been waiting a LONG time for that...and B) Saying no to the over-night dates. (except ED...but you did just talk all night) I always find it a little loose of the bachelor/bachelorette just jumping into that kind of a situation regardless if they're ready or not. I thought it showed a lot of class on your part!!!

Anonymous said...

When Reid said in his personal interview that
" you have his heart" in spanish, I just melted. You mentioned that Reid makes you feel like yourself and the best version of you.
I can't help but believe in the end Reid will be the one you decide to take a chance on. I think he has certainly won over many viewers! I hope he won your heart too! After all is said and done, I hope this was all worth it in the end and you found your best friend!

Anonymous said...

Jill,
Of the three guys you have left I think Ed is the right choice for you. He is so in to you, as well as being intelligent and very, very sexy. I liked the way he kept touching your face. Very affectionate! He has a great job and even though he left due to threats from his boss, he did come crawling back to you. That took guts even though he was probably scared that you would reject him. He's got character! Also, you can milk this for years and years! Just imagine -you're trying to persuade him to do something, you can say "remember when you left me?" - and you'd win every time! Seriously though, he is ready for marriage and kids. You two look great together - so natural.
Moving on to Kypton. I liked him at first and think he's the best looking guy on the show. But lately he's been acting a bit feminine. He's not able to commit to you and would probably break your heart like he's broken other girl's hearts in the past. It's his pattern and men typically do repeat their patterns. And what about his mother??? Have you seen the movie, "Monster In Law"??? I wouldn't want her in my life.
Now, on to Reid. Sweet Reid. He's cute and you obviously get along great together. I think he is in to you too, but he's just not secure enough as a man. He is always seeking family approval instead of relying on his own gut. He needs to mature a bit before he is marriage material.
Jill, I know you've picked your man already, but I just had to give you my two cents. I think you're a sweet girl and deserve a great guy. Don't second guess yourself ever. Take care and I wish you all the happiness in the world.
Patty

angie said...

I will make mine short and sweet. You are wonderful and I think you're my favorite bachelorette. I think Ed and Kiptyn are the top two, but Kiptyn is my FAV!!! He's so good looking, caring and soft spoken.

Unknown said...

A question Jillian... if you were not considering their emotions, who would you have kept for your final 4 (not including Wes)???

Anonymous said...

Jill,
I genuinely care about your happiness and I don't even know you. I just wanted to let you know that I hope you end up with someone you are crazy about and love very much and they return those feelings right back to you.
From what I see on the TV, the best for you is Ed, I love him and he seems on your level and can keep up with someone as independent as you and you said you wanted that.
But I love Reid for you too because he is so funny, sweet, and gentle.
I do like Kiptyn but I hope the top two men are Ed and Reid because I think they are the most suitable for you. But obviously you know best who is right, can't wait to see who you pick and best of wishes! I want you to have your happily ever after!

Jennie B. said...

Jillian,
How do you hold yourself together? This is all insane and I LOVE IT! Poor Wes. He's an idiot. I can't wait for what is coming up!!! I'm obsessed with this show. Thanks for letting me live through you! My girlfriends and I are cheering you on!

BTW.....Ed=HEAVEN!

Anonymous said...

I have enjoyed watching the show every week. What a great final 3 you have. In the coming previews it seems as though you go through alot to make your final decision. From watching the show, It seems as though Reid has has had a slow but steady building relationship. Ed's has been back and forth with him leaving. As a fan of the show, and being a hopeless romantic, I love seeing two people fall in love and be happy. I have most enjoyed your time with Reid, seeing you both laugh and tease each other has been quite fun. He seems like a wonderful man! I am sure it was tough to let the ones you cared for go...at least if your happy in the end it will all be worth it. Take care - Brianna

Anonymous said...

Dear Jillian,

I know where you are coming from with Wes. I would have done the same keeping him around to find out what he's all about instead of listening to the rumors (or warning from the others). His departing comments is very telling of the type of person he is.

Ok, enough of Wes. Last night's episode was the most wonderful. Who wouldn't fall in love in Spain? So romantic!! I love how you and Reid were exploring the city together and picking up lunch. This is what normal couples do on a date instead of helicopter rides and all that crazy stuff. Reid is so funny and loving. Any girl would be very lucky to have a guy like Reid in their lives. Yes, he's more of a city type of guy but he has alot more to offer than a guy like Wes. Philly looks like a very nice place to live in. Hey, you can always visit Vancouver in the summer for camping trips~ If you and Reid didn't work out, please send him my way. lolz. j/k

All the best!

Jenny

Crystal said...

Stampede rocks! Congrats on getting rid of Wes. I'm reading elsewhere that there was a lot of editing done and wonder what you think of this. The only advice I have for you is I really think you should stay away from Chihuahua, Mexico! Can't wait until next week!

Anonymous said...

Hello Jillian,

It's faith to have a guy like Wes to come on the show to put your fantasy to rest. Sometimes what you think you want isn't the best for you. Good luck with "the one". I'm sure he'll treat you like gold.

Take care,
Sammi

Anonymous said...

Jill can i just say that Reid is the
CUTEST guy ever?!?! I'd buy a house he tried to sell me any day! But i know that even if it's not him you'll definitely make the right choice:]

Anonymous said...

Jillian, I enjoy you so much. I am so glad Wes made it so obvious for you!!!!!! You have 3 wonderful men, but I think ed and ried are probably more ready to settle down with you, anyway I think your pretty safe with these guys. You are so cute , sweet and funny, I hope it all works out for you in the end!!!!!

Anonymous said...

I've had to forget about Jake (who I sincerely hope will be the next Bachelor, though I hear its Kip), and now I'm into Reid! He really does appear to be growing on alot of the viewers! Fingers crossed that you picked him - this is a guy that you can laugh your life away with. That is a good thing! Ed to me seems to be very serious, and different from you, though that may be what you are looking for. Ah, girl, now that Wes is out of the picture, I don't think you can go too wrong. Wait!! I just remembered Kiptyn's mom!! "shudder". I'm mean. I know. Hope you had a great time in Calgary! My sister and her family are out there now too.

connie said...

Hey Jillian,

Happy to see you came to Calgary to enjoy some stampede!!! Gotta love this time of year.

Have to say, this was one of my favorite shows too. Happy to see Wes gone, I wanted him gone a long time ago. But I hear ya,the thought of "whaf if", is the worst feeling ever.

I can't wait for next week, I'm an Ed fan, and sure glad he's back. I truly hope you're happy and have found what you're looking for. Hope you can bring him back to Calgary sometime.

yeehaw
:-)

Dayla said...

Jillian,

I hope you are extremely happy as you anticipate the weeks to come. My sister-in-law and I did a little dance in the living room when you finally said farewell to Mr. Country Music.

I would have to agree with the masses...I'm all about Reid. How genuine to have someone jealous of time that others are spending with you. I hope that even if his words didn't tell you how he felt that that small window into his emotions spoke loudly to you. Of course I wish you the best regardless and that whoever you choose will join the rare "ABC Couples" like Ryan and Trista and make it in the end.

Take Care,
Dayla

Anonymous said...

Hi Jillian,

I love the person I am when I am with my husband too. This is the ultimate feeling. Some people spend a life time looking for that person. I hope you've found that person.

much love,
Vancouver girl

Anonymous said...

My BFF and I are watching this show "together" (she's in Boston and I'm in LA). We both agree that this is the first time in Bachelor history that we aren't rooting for one person at the end (we were both rooting for you with Jason, and Jason for DeAnna, etc.). Your final three are all great guys though I am leaning towards Ed and Reid as your final two! Your relationship with each of them are different--exposing different sides of you. My fear with Ed is that work will cause conflict and you will be a "microsoft widow" and with Reid, you will be "wearing the pants" more? Ed seems to be more of a go-getter and Reid is more laid back. They are such different guys. I feel funny dissecting the two of them and your relationship with them when we, the audience, get such a tiny sliver of your actual experience. But for what it is worth, I think you could make it work with either person. It is just a matter of what you want more for yourself. And for the record, as much as my BFF and I are enjoying being disgusted by Wes, I have to believe that he isn't the sleazebag that he appears to be. We are thrilled that you let him go (finally!) but he really can't be as stupid, manipulative and self-serving as he appears to be, right? There is a reason he made it this far that we, the viewers, aren't seeing but you saw and experienced. But phew, ding dong the witch is gone!
We hope for the best for you and really hoping that you find well-deserved happiness!

Susan

Anonymous said...

Jill, You seem like such a fantastic person. This show has been riveting and i LOVE it. by far, you have been my favorite bachelorette to watch!!! Now i gotta say, i am rooting for ED which says a lot since i am a born and raised philly girl. I am sure you found out when you visited Philly that people from philly are die hard about philly...we are a little bit crazy but it is such an amazing city. ED seems so genuine and is just down right sexy. It is ashame when work pulls you away from a chance like this, but i understand what he did. Leaves of Absence arent set in stone unless they are for a medical issue or a maternity leave (i work in human resources). Good luck with everything Jill!!! xoxo

Anonymous said...

This season has been so fun to watch. I am hoping you found your soulmate. If it were me,Reid would be my pick. As another mentioned, even though he may not have all the words to tell you, there is no doubt he is falling in love. He is so real and honest and so handsome too! I can imagine life with Reid would bring alot of laughter and love. Wish you all the best Jillian with whomever you choose!

Ellen said...

Jillian I hope you picked Reid! You guys seemed so natural together and he seems like the sweetest guy! I liked Kiptyn in the beginning but after your date with Reid in Spain I am now pulling for him! If you didn't pick him, you still have two great guys, but you guys were really natural! Just promise me you won't pull a Jason!

Anonymous said...

Hello Jilly,
Feel like I know you after being a fan of the bachelor as well. I never gave it a thought about what you were going to do with Wes. I knew that you would see him for what he is all about. Like you said you have to slay a few dragons. Take the good with the bad. With that being said I am a huge fan of Reid. I would dearly love to see you guys make it in real life. It seems no matter what you guys do you are both so into it like a "dirty sock". That's a good old eastern slang. Looking forward to next week. You make us proud to be a Canadian. Live love and laugh!!!

Anonymous said...

Just as you realized things weren't right with Wes, I'm hoping you'll soon realize that the idea of going onto a reality TV show to find a husband doesn't really make much sense.
You do know that out of 17 Bachelors/Bachelorettes, only one couple is still together? Although watching you is certainly entertaining and instructional for the rest of us, I'm afraid that you come across as needy and self-absorbed.
When you finally do return home please think about finding a therapist, developing your own self, and learning to care about other people for who they are (rather than for how they make you feel).

from a Marriage & Family Therapist

Anonymous said...

Hi Jillian.
Don't listen to the comment above mine. You are yourself- a happy and exuberant person. If we were being followed by cameras 24/7 I think any one of us would come across strangely now and then.
Bottom line: I hope you are happy. The 3 remaining bachelors are all great in some ways. But I am rooting for Ed. And Chicago is as great a city as Vancouver IMHO. You would love it. People are positive and genuine. And how can you not love the Cubbies and especially long- suffering Cubbies fans.
Best to you and keep smiling that beautiful smile.

Anonymous said...

Jillian

I hope you found everything you were looking for. Watching you on the bachelor and bachelorette I have grown to adore you. You are a very genuine person and I am rooting for you to find "mr.Invisible". It must be REID right ??? Everything I have seen between you both is just magical. I will be surprised if he is not your chosen one, due to all the chemistry we have seen..although Ed and Kip seem like great men as well. Best Wishes to you- Julie

Sarah said...

Jillian

I love watching you and have since the bachelor! You are so down to earth, I love it! Even though you did keep Wes around for too long, you have the BEST three guys left right now. I think Reid and Kiptyn are so damn sexy, I dont know how you let either of them go! I think your in love with Eddy already but we will see if my watching of the...18? seasons of the bachelor pays off, and my guess is right! Hope everything is going well with you! Send whomever you dont choose my way would ya?

Anonymous said...

Reid was never my favorite but now, I really hope you picked him. Together y'all laugh so much and he's the one who is getting jealous and wanting you all to himself. I know when I'm like that, it's love. Ed just seems so serious and maybe even too demure. Kipton was my favorite mainly cause he's super hot but there's just something about him....maybe that he's never had his heart broken or maybe it was his pretentious parents. What if you had picked the white zinfandel? Would they have snubbed you? Anyway, when I think of why I love my boyfriend it's momments like the ones you and Reid share, jsut simply happy to be in each other's company. Good Luck!

Sylake, AB said...

Thank you Jilli for reading these ... you must appreciate that many of us are living our romantic fantasy dates through you! Hopefully that will temper the passion directed towards YOUR choices! I get that you pick the right man for you - but mine is Jake. I'll dream a little longer on that fantasy. Stay as sweet as you are!

Anonymous said...

Jillian, I am your sister from the 'brunettes-who-act-like-blondes-family.'

We all have our quirks, so neurotic or not, I have to say I'm on Team Reid. He is so adorable! Of course, you are the one who went through this process, so you know them better than we, the viewers, do, and the three that are left are amazing. I would have a hard time letting any of them go.

Best wishes.

Tracy said...

You have 3 amazing men left, You can't go wrong with any! I think you and Kiptyn have so much in common. You 2 have so much energy and I think both of you would make fabulous parents. It's like you both live life to the fullest! GO KIPTYN!

Lisa said...

Great job on the show! I hadn't planned to watch after last season but I ended up getting drawn in by you. I started out a fan of Kiptyn because he seems so sweet and I love to look at the man.

But there is just something about Reid. Sigh. I love, love, love the two of you together. I love that he is able to show you his vulnerable side. I love that the two of you seem to be able to talk about everything, anything or nothing. I love that he looks so hot in his glasses. :) You two seem to share a level of intimacy that I have rarely seen on this show.

I hope that you are very happy with whomever you chose. All 3 seem like great people. But I think if it is Reid that you chose you two will have a great chance of making in the real world.

Anonymous said...

Jillian - you are my favorite bachelorette! You really tried to give Wes the benefit of the doubt. All three guys left are great but Kiptyn is my favorite!

Anonymous said...

Jillian!!! You are just soooooooooo pretty!!!!!!!!!!!!! Huny I cannot believe you sent Reid home...he was just a cutie!!!! I really hope he comes back and you and Reid get married!!! I also really liked Jake!
I wish you the best!!!! Ahh I cannot wait until the finale! I am dying to see who you pick!! =)

Good luck!!

mellyjo said...

Awww. That show was painful to watch. I don't know if I can watch any more.
Call it creative editing, I don't know - you just seemed to have that special spark with Reid.
is the end result - getting married - more important than the process of falling in love with someone, and give and take?
is it fair to ask for something you can't give them in return (i.e. while you're dating other guys)?
I'm rooting for you and hope you have found the whole package (all puns intended)! Well, maybe I'll peek at the next show.
fellow Canuck,
Mellyjo

Anonymous said...

Awww Jillian, I was so sorry that you let Reid go..I think he would have gone the distance & the two of you would have had a great life a great partnership together...It's not too late..to get him back..you cried so hard when you said goodbye to him....too hard if the right one was still left....Ed is cute but might be a bit too serious & boring for you...I worry about Kiptyn....Good luck to you...be happy!

Brynn from BC said...

WHY? WHY? WHY? You sent your future best-friend husband home tonight. I thought you said you wanted a best friend in a mate AND someone who made you come alive with laughter! That was Reid - you sent him home for Ed (whose work is more important than you) and Kiptyn (who is uptight with pretentious parents). I am in denial. I cannot watch the Finale. REID WAS THE ONE. WE LOVE YOU REID!!!!

Anonymous said...

Question - What does spending the night together REALLY mean???

Maria from BC said...

Reid+Jillian = chemistry undeniable. partners 4 life. You balance each other.
Kiptyn+Jillian = physical chemistry.
Ed+Jillian = its not apparent.

Anonymous said...

Jillian - that whole Ed on the bed scene was tasteless. How can you let a camera crew film you cavorting with a guy, and then talk about how he wasn't able to "perform"? On National TV? The money must be good.

Anonymous said...

I really think you let the wrong guy go. Reid and you had the best chance of making it past two weeks. He was so NORMAL. Are you kidding me .....ED????? this guy's about as
sincere as a rock, I bet money on a few girlfriends back in Chicago, more than what you
had to worry about with Wes. Oh and the oil all over each other, save it Jilly for behind closed
doors. It wasn't sexy, it wasn't pretty, actually it was a bit painful to watch, as were
you jumping out of the bathroom in almost nothing. Ah well, we'll be
reading about your break-up with whoever it is you do pick in two weeks. I really thought this
season would be one of the best, but not even close.

Anonymous said...

Jillian,
I wish you the best and hope you pick the right guy for you. I am sorry, my pick was Jake, I think he would have made you a wonderful husband and best friend. When he came back his heart was in the right place, and he wanted to keep you safe and I believe he really cared about you.
I am now a Kiptyn fan if Jake does not come back. I am still hoping. Good luck and God Bless

Anonymous said...

I choose to believe that you know better than any of us,what you are doing.we only see a small portion of what goes on between you and the guys.You have to go with your heart and with your gut.Its your decision to make!My favorite is kipton,for my own reasons!

brck4 said...

You made some mistakes, don't we all? But, the question in your short time with all 3 is, which one do YOU really want to spend more time with, and which one do you think more about? That is part of love. Best friends is nice, but, loving your best friend forever is better. Whichever you choose, as long as you realize, they may just be thinking they are in love with you, to somehow convince you to pick them. Again, YOU have to go with your heart, and also what you know. If Ed is adventurous as Kip, then it's a toss up. Either way, my family enjoys the show.

Anonymous said...

I am just frantically tapping my toes for Monday to get here. I wish the show was on 2 nights a week. For goodness sake the undeserving Big Brother gets 3 nights a week. I would imagine there is enought footage for The Bachelor/Bachelorette to air more than once a week. (hint, hint ABC).

You know, reading all the comments that people post...its really hard to watch the show and not end up thinking "Which guy is right for ME"? I think that is what most of us do, forgetting this is about YOU choosing a mate. But darn it, it is so hard to not be bias when it seems we are seeing more about each guy then you actually are. But then again, I guess u are also having more private conversations with each that was just not aired? So for my " follow what the rest of America is doing"..I adore Kypton :)LOL But then again I am partial to the So Cal boys. I have lived in Souther Cali for 9 years now. I absolutely love it. There is not a day that goes by that I do not appreciate the beauty here. I love the diversity of the people, the laid back "beachy" life style, and it is a wonderful place for my son (8) to grow up. I am originally from St. Louis, which is a complete 180 from Southern Cali. All my family and friends are there and no one in all of my family, Mom's side and Dads, live anywhere else but St. Louis. All piled into one little corner of the world. So u can imagine I was petrified to make the move. But when my husbands job was based in LA ( He is an airline pilot...like Jake..LOL, of course I was also partial to him), and he was commuting back and forth it was so hard on us. Now I can't imagine making any other choice. So...that leads me to ask.....As far as I have seen on the show, you have not commited to moving away from Canada. In the begining I heard you tell some of the guys that you were not opposed to moving. Now that the choices have been narrowed down and the show is coming to a close, it seems u might not feel so open to it. Mentioning more often about family and being close. Have you changed your mind on that? Not to be rude at all, as much as I love the show, it seems all the "candidates" end up doing everything to please the Bachelor or Bachelorette and lose site of whats important to them. Wrong??

Oh well, enough of my mindless chatter. Just wanted to put my 2 cent's in. I am so looking forward to seeing who the lucky guy is. But mostly, I hope you find that true love you so deperately want and deserve, and that you do get your "happily ever after"!!!! :)

Anonymous said...

I was thrilled when you were chosen as the new bachelorette. I have been hooked on the show the last three installments (?). Congrats on choosing Ed. I thought he was the one also. Something about him. Hope the rumors circulating right now aren't true.

I do think this will be the last time I watch the show. It seemed less real this time, and too many strange twists. Not enough experiences that allowed real personalities to come out, and touch the heart. Why they would even allow someone on the show to promote his career, does not make sense. Maybe he paid someone to be there.

Anyway. Best of Luck. Canada Rocks.

Diana from Alaska

Unknown said...

Jillian, I am a huge fan! You are hands down my favorite bachelorette. Definitely the most happy, caring and genuine of them all. I think you picked the PERFECT guy, and don't listen to anyone who says otherwise. Don't let others get to you, there are a lot of sick and frustrated people out there, who use you or any available target as an outlet for their emotional problems. It's about them, NOT you. I really hope you 2 make it work!!! In fact I'm sure you will. You are a gorgeous gorgeous couple. Watching you 2 together is like witnessing a fairy tale!!!

You've got such great energy, people can't get enough of you! May be there is a way for you to get a TV deal and be a host of some show? You know a lot about design--maybe you could host an interior design show? Maybe a competition of some sort?? Is there something you and Ed can do together just for fun and good money? It just seems that you are so good with the camera and that people would watch a show, just because you are in it! :))

Anyway, I wish you all the best! Can't wait to see your wedding pictures and/or videos-- the beautiful fairy tale ending...

Thanks for all the fun! :)))

-Anna

Anonymous said...

Hi Jillian, I am a huge fan of the show. I need to know - did Ed cheat on you????? I will personally make his life hell if he did because Jake,Reid and Kiptyn are heart broken and would never have done that to you. I am a Canadian girl like you and want to see you truly happy. Can't wait for the wedding!!!!!!!!!!
KJ

Anonymous said...

Jill, I forgot to mention, I was so impressed with your class with the overnight dates, way to go, first bachelorette to do that. Made us Canadian girls real proud!!!!! Make sure you post frequently and keep us up-to-date with wedding plans. You have to make it a public affair like Trista and Ryan, we all want to be there if only in spirit.
KJ

Anonymous said...

What is this in the tabloids about Ed cheating on you? I hope it is not true because you both seem so happy together. I looked forward to Monday nights every week. I made sure I wasn't scheduled to work in the pharmacy on those nights!!! Please let me know if the two of you are okay???

Lynn in Virginia

Anonymous said...

I am hopeful that you and Ed are togther. You make a GREAT couple. Do not let the "haters" get you down!!!!

Anonymous said...

Hey Jillian,
I don't care what the tabloids say. People are always so quick to believe bad press....It's bullshit. I think you guys are amazing together, and your love story is so heart warming. Girl I admire your guts, Ed is one lucky guy! Now you get married and have lotsa babies!!!
God bless you

Sally from Edmonton, Alberta

Anonymous said...

Jilly,
Have you forgotten us!!! We need to know what is going on in your life. Keep us up to date and dispel those rumors. Can't wait to hear that you have set the date. I know you are moving to Chicago next month.
KJ

Anonymous said...

Jillian,

You were a delightful bachelorette.
What difficult decisions you had!!!
Many, many best wishes! Hope we
hear happy news about you and your
future.

Paula

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